Every since I was little, I always wanted to leave home. After a heated unfair arguement with dad, he always say, “As long as you live under this roof, you have to listen to my rules. Move out if you think you can.”
So, about 5 years ago, I made a pact with myself that I would either get married or move out of the house by the age of 30. Western culture would be laughing at anyone who still live at home with the parent after the age of 21.
Not only because I want to be independent but also, I don’t seemed to get along well with my parents. Since then, every year seemed to get worse. I think probably its because when I get older, my opinion gets more and more different as my parents. How can a small flat contain 3 grown adults? Especially when my parents still see me as their little daughter who don’t know better.
Even though I was living at home with my parents, I still do my own laundry and theirs, clean my own room and theirs, do grocery for the family and more. I’m not like a spoilt child over the age of 25 still having her mother wash her undies. I help out around the house. Ask BS or GL, they can tell you that I’m almost a maid. So how is it different from living on your own? Now that I’m no longer around at home, my parents are feeling the stress, I know because my friends and my aunt tell me.
Okay, I digress. What I wanted to say is that since my pact to move out of the house by the age of 30, the pressure was on KL. However, I have decided that should he be unable to marry me by then, I would simply move out into a rented room or sort.
I’m glad I did managed to move out of my parents before my 29th birthday. My relationship with them is so much more better now, especially with mum. Everyone who knows me knows that I have a bad relationship with mum, it includes lots of screaming, yelling of vulgarities and slamming of doors. That IS the only communication we ever do. As for dad, he always win his arguement if we were on the fone. Coz he always slam the fone on me. Once, at work, we were arguing on the fone. He said, “Fuck you!” then *Bang. In fustration, I said, to the empty tone, “FUCK YOU BACK” and slam my telephone back at the set. Then my colleagues all stared at me. Embarrassed, I had to explain it was my dad and not a client on the fone. I think that is still bad.
I don’t know how to resolve this. Maybe its mother nature. How come our parents or our granparents have no such problem with their kids? Coz they probably got married or moved out on their own before any conflict.
Sorry, only solution is move out. Otherwise, just bite your lips and soldier on. You will never win the fight with your parents.